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Would you be content with chatbots, a sex doll, and living in an undersea bubble? If so (I doubt it), great, go for it.

If not: don't answer, silent mode, or power off, or appreciate human contact when you do. If people are "calling too much," it's because you failed to train them how to interact with you. And, now you're resenting their assuming it was okay because you were too "nice" to be honest. Instead of mind-reading, communicate (edit: communicate your preferences of communication) perhaps. It's probably you, not them. Sorry, bud.

Edit: Let's inquire curiously rather than name-call or get snarky, because that degrades the site and discourages understanding.



You really didn't provide any objective reasons for why it should be your way (I did). You are just projecting your (quite questionable) preferences onto others.

I'll go again: there are 2 modes of interaction, sync for urgent stuff, async for everything else. If I'll go silent mode, I won't be answering ANY of your calls, even if you'll die when I don't pick up right now. You won't be able to choose between sync and async.

If I'm not in the silent mode: it's a courtesy to you, and you should treat it respectfully. Since I don't know if it's urgent when I pick up, I'm trusting you to make the right choice between urgent and non-urgent (because, again, if I don't trust you to make the right choice, you won't be able to interrupt me when you really-really, oh-god-please-make-him-to-pick-up, really need to interrupt me). If you abuse it, you are an inconsiderate asshole, and not a "cool social guy, who is fun to talk to: I must be, because I've never heard people say otherwise!" If you abuse it too much, I'll be forced to tell you that you are abusing it. Which is not a polite thing to tell, and can be considered an act of agression, which is why many (most, perhaps) people will be hating you with a smile, instead of telling you that. That's why they'll resort to a seemingly more polite, but actually less productive act of passive agression: they'll actually go into silent mode (maybe for your phone number selectively) and you won't have a choice between sync and async anymore.

And, let's be clear: everybody (me included) wants their emails, calls, texts, anything to be answered immediately. The fact is that it's not always convenient for the other guy because he has both other texts/emails/calls, and unless he is a sales agent, also has stuff to do besides talking to phone (actually, no: even sales agents aren't on the phone 24/7). Ignoring that simple fact is being an asshole, not a custodian of "nearly forgotten the true and only art of real™ human interaction". Sorry, bud.


Or maybe a text message is just a much more practical and less disruptive form of communication with, you know, another human being. You're being quite judgemental on other people and ascribing behavior just because they happen to communicate in methods that you find inappropriate. Not very constructive.


Not OP, but of course not. But the text message with that other person is not the end of the interaction. It is a coordination effort. "What time are you going to be here for dinner." "6:30." Then the actual human interaction in person happens.

> Sorry, bud.

This makes you sound like a jerk.


I know you are downvoted, but what you said is 100% true. Maybe could do without the first sentence; but otherwise it’s spot on - if one doesn’t like talking on the phone for x queries, then they should be able to tactfully communicate this and others will appreciate it. Bottling it all and then getting frustrated that people don’t follow our preferred communication style is only our fault.


You said “sorry bud” but complaining About being rude and mean?




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